When you fall in love the natural thing to do is tell the world! You're excited, and you might want to post about your relationship on Facebook, Twitter, or even your blog. But should you? Here are some thoughts.
Things Written Online Stay There Permanently
If you post about your relationship, the things you write could come back to haunt you. While you always have the option to delete a post on your blog, someone could still take a screen capture or use the Way Back Machine to see what you wrote. Since blog posts are usually tied to emotions, it can mean you gush or rant about your relationship in the moment but regret what you said later.
The best bet is to wait a bit if you feel the urge to divulge details of your relationship. If you still want to write something later, chances are you'll have better perspective to write a post that won't anger or embarrass your partner.
Sharing Thoughts About Your Relationship Too Soon
One drawback of blogging about your relationship is that your partner can read exactly what's on your mind. Sometimes this can add pressure to a partnership and prevent it from developing naturally. If you are in a new relationship, it's usually better to keep your thoughts to yourself until you're sure how your date feels.
Blogging Allows You to Let Your Emotions Out
One of the healthiest things about blogging is that it helps you get your emotions out. If you are the type of person who needs to "figure out" your relationship by writing about it, a good idea is to write your blog but limit the people who can read it. This way your date won't read anything that will cause discomfort, and you will still get the emotional benefits of blogging.
Most blogging platforms today allow you to limit who can see your blog. If you're on the Blogger platform (or have a "blogspot.com" address) you can restrict access by going to "settings" and then "permissions." There is a box that asks you to choose who can view your blog, and you can select the appropriate setting.
Anonymous Blogging Can Help You Figure Out Your Relationship
People who blog about their relationship sometimes find that the comments they receive are helpful in determining how to proceed with things. A situation may be confusing, and hearing feedback from an objective source may help certain daters take action into communicating more effectively with their partner, getting closer with their mate, or even breaking up.
One way to write about your relationship is to blog anonymously. You can set up a free account on Blogger or Wordpress, and change the names of you and your partner so things stay out of the public eye. People in sticky situations like emotional affairs or cheating have found this approach helpful. Just be sure to keep the details general enough so your partner will not be embarrassed by what you write.
Cherie Burbach - Cherie Burbach writes about dating, relationships, health, sports, and lifestyle. She's the author of eleven books and ebooks.
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