Does the first time you go out with a new guy or gal make you nervous? Apprehensive? Relax! The following strategies will allow you to have a comfortable and easy going date that's bound to go well.
Familiarize Yourself with Local Hangouts
When you and your date are figuring out where to go, it helps when you have a few places in mind that you can suggest. Become familiar with local coffee shops and other spots that would help create the perfect environment for a first date.
If you choose a spot to meet and suddenly need to change it at the last minute (if the place is closed or too crowded), you'll have an easier time rolling with the flow if you can quickly suggest a few alternate spots. Don't discount the importance of meeting at a place that makes you feel at home. The more relaxed you are on your date, the better time you'll probably have.
Read Up on News
It's not that you'll spent your entire date talking about what's going on in the news, but by making yourself aware of what's happening in the world you'll be a better conversationalist in general. Also, if something newsworthy has caught your date's attention, you will click that much better if you can respond in kind.
Practice First Date Conversation
Never underestimate the importance of conversation on a first date. To avoid awkwardness, do a practice run with a friend. This especially worthwhile if you've been out of the dating world for a bit. You'd be surprised at how rusty social skills become when you don't use them.
Choose an Outfit that Gives You Confidence
When you're comfortable, you'll be able to show your true self. Therefore, dress in an outfit that makes you feel, as well as look, good. Jeans and tee shirt or sweater are usually a good bet. Aim for "business casual" attire, not "Sunday best."
Be Safe
With a first date you still don't know someone that well, and you should put in place a few safety measures. For example, tell a friend where you are going and who you are going with. Always bring money and a cell phone with you. You may not need these items but doing so will you feel more relaxed so you can be yourself.
Memorize a Few Details about the Person
Before you leave for your date, commit some basic information about him or her to memory. Brush up on their name, hobbies, and one or two interesting facts that drew you to them. If you met online, bring up a few details from their profile that you found interesting. If your friend set you up, commit a couple of the things you've heard about him or her to memory.
Plan Your Exit Strategy
If it's the first time you're meeting someone, you should always opt for a coffee date. But even if you have already met your date once or twice, you should set the expectation that you will need to leave at a certain time. Doing so will take away any awkwardness if you are having a poor time and want to go home.
Continue planning out the end of your dates in advance until you know someone well enough that you are okay with spending a considerable amount of time with him or her.
First dates don't have to be filled with apprehension and nervousness. With a few simple safety and planning measures, you will be able to relax and get to know your date. Remember, that first meeting is a special one, so settle in and enjoy your night!
Cherie Burbach - Cherie Burbach writes about dating, relationships, health, sports, and lifestyle. She's the author of eleven books and ebooks.
