Wondering what a guy is thinking on a first date? While every date (and couple) is different, there are certain things that impress men the first time you go out. Here are some tips on what turns a guy on and how you can make sure you put your best foot forward.
Men are Attracted to Confidence
Guys love a girl who is her own person, so don't be afraid to show your true colors. Too often, women try to agree with everything a guy says thinking that she'll be viewed as, "easy to get along with." This couldn't be farther from the truth. Men like a girl who has her own opinions and isn't afraid to share them.
The key is not to argue, but to show your man you can hold your own. If you and your guy differ on certain subjects that's okay. What makes a couple work is when two people are different enough that they can learn from one other.
Guys Love a Great Smile
There is nothing more attractive than a great smile, but it does more than just show off good dental hygiene. An encouraging smile signifies a woman who is at peace with herself, and one that is interested in new experiences.
Conversely, if you wear a frown on your first date, you are likely to give the impression that you aren't having a good time, or that you just aren't interested. A smile goes a long way in giving a man confidence to ask for a second date.
Ability to Hold a Conversation
Being compatible often means hanging out in a variety of situations. For example, you should be as comfortable going to the grocery store together as are going to the movies. Men will gauge part of this comfort level on a woman's ability to hold her own in conversation. On a first date, it's a good idea to chat about a variety of subjects so your guy knows that future dates with you will be anything but boring.
Show Your Man You Are Available
As odd as it sounds, some women go on first dates with someone new before being totally available to start a relationship. Sometimes they are stuck on their ex-boyfriend, while other times they just aren't emotionally ready to date. Nothing turns a guy off more than hearing a girl go on and on about a previous relationship.
Finding a Connection
Ultimately, men want there to be some chemistry with their gal. They want to know that there is a spark of attraction and that she feels the same way as he does. While there isn't much you can do to plan for this (after all, either you two have it or you don't), you can give yourself a better chance of making a great impression if you dress in a flattering manner, arrive on time, and actively listen and engage in conversation.
Overall the best thing you can do to impress a man on the first date is just be positive. No one wants to be around a downer, so no matter what happens, try to go with the flow and remain upbeat. Show your guy that you are worth getting to know for a second date, and beyond.
Cherie Burbach - Cherie Burbach writes about dating, relationships, health, sports, and lifestyle. She's the author of eleven books and ebooks.
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