Texting has become a quick and easy way for daters to let each other know they are interesting in dating. On the plus side, this takes away some of that uncertainty involved at the beginning of a relationship. If someone texts you and says you're cute, you can be pretty sure he or she is flirting with you and at least likes you enough to want to chat.
The danger with texting is that it is impersonal and can get overused. Texting is another form of communication, which can help a relationship if used correctly. Here are some tips for making texting work for you and your partner.
Use Texting as an Ice Breaker
Texting can be great when used as a way to first say hello to someone. If you're shy or unsure whether they like you, sending a text can clue you in to whether or not they feel the same way. However, if you text too long, you won't really get to know the person. So limit your texting in the beginning (before you ask someone out for a real date.)
Don't Use Texting as Your Only Communication Method
There is a reason why face-to-face communication is the best. With texting you don't get the nonverbal clues that you would if you were in the same room with your date. Texting is also more limiting than regular email because you need to abbreviate the things you write. This can be harmful in the beginning of a relationship and prevent you from truly getting to know your new love interest.
Instead of texting as a way of regular communication, call up your date in the beginning. Your date will be able to hear the tone in your voice and messages will not get misconstrued as they might with texting. Also, with the phone or even email, you will be able to express more than just a few random thoughts, and you'll bond quicker.
Use Texting to Let Your Partner Know You are Thinking of Them
Texting is a great way to just let your partner know he or she is on your mind during the day. Sending a quick message takes seconds, and works well if you are busy at work or school. It helps build excitement for when you do see each other again later in the week.
Like anything, however, too much texting can get old very fast. Use texting to offer a nice, short little surprise for your date, but don't abuse it. Too many "I'm thinking of you" type of messages will lose their meaning, and after a while your partner will just ignore them.
Cherie Burbach - Cherie Burbach writes about dating, relationships, health, sports, and lifestyle. She's the author of eleven books and ebooks.
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